Freedom of choice is more to be treasured than any possession earth can give…!

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These days we see so many incidents, messages, tweets, videos in social media talking about ‘stand up’!
Yes, I don’t want to mix this with the usual tech industry norms of ‘stand-up’ meeting.

Standing up for self and for others is basically asking defend and be strong. This is what I teach my kids because I always have this fact behind my mind that one day I will be gone and kids will have to face this world all by themselves.
We all know how this world is and it’s not easy to live in. My thinking used to be that as we move forward in life we will be more intelligent and will be more human but that’s not the reality.

“Charity begins at home, and justice begins next door” ~ Charles Dickens

My son is a big fan of Katy Perry the American songwriter and singer, since he was 5 years old. He loves her songs and he sings them as well. Since then he has been after me to go for Katy Perry’s concert and not only this but he would also check if she is performing anywhere. Years passed but he would come and tell she is performing in London or Costa Rica, can we go and I had to tell him it’s far and expensive to go for a concert in those places.
Finally, it happened and Katy Perry’s tour was announced on the 101.3 radio and I got excited about it only because I could imagine my son’s excitement if he would know about it.

I went ahead and booked the ticket even though it was way too early. His excitement and happiness had no limits and at the same time he thanked a million times for this opportunity to watch Katy Perry’s live concert.

He also requested if possible can we buy her t-shirt at the concert and I said sure!

“Music gives a soul to the universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination and life to everything” ~ Plato

The concert was good, we all enjoyed it as by now we knew all the songs that Katy Perry has sung and more over those who have attended her concert know that she is a great performer and entertainer as well. We bought t-shirt and my son was so happy and excited that he was ready to wear the t-shirt to his school and let the world know that he finally did attend Katy Perry’s concert.

I was really happy for him being a music lover I know the excitement of attending the concerts as I do all the time.

He went to school wearing Katy Perry’s t-shirt and couple of kids teased him why he is wearing a t-shirt that has a girl on it. We got to know all this only when he returned that afternoon from school. What I saw was a strong person in my son. He clearly told them he is a big fan of Katy Perry and he likes her and hence he is wearing the t-shirt. He also said, I support her, don’t you support your mom and/or sister?
I was amazed at his stand! However, I didn’t like when I heard his friend was nagging about this as why he wore that t-shirt. I felt this should be reported to the office, because no one should tell anyone what they should do. It’s everyone’s individual choice.
I was reading few quotes to my son on the internet and I showed some of Martin Luther King Jr. quotes which spoke about standing up for self and for others. I told my son, today what you did is for self and I am proud of you.

“Our children have to be educated in the values of equality, freedom of choice and democracy” ~Ehud Barak

Couple weeks went by and as I was folding the clothes from the laundry wash, he sees the t-shirt is washed and the response comes, yay! I see my t-shirt seems got washed, nice and clean so I can wear this tomorrow to school!
I was surprised and happy too!
I was surprised because last time when he wore that t-shirt he had an incident at school and now he is again going to wear it and I was nervous again things will be different. So, I asked my son, ‘are you sure? You want to wear this even though you know what happened last time?’

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My son’s response was cute, ‘I don’t care what anyone says. I like Katy Perry and I will wear the t-shirt again.’

“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter” ~ Martin Luther King Jr.

This made me feel very proud about my son. It could be a small thing but this is important step in life, to stand up for self. One should have the freedom to choose what they want and not others to choose for them.

His best friend asked again, why you are wearing that girl’s t-shirt and my son had an answer for him.
‘Would you support your mom, sister and your girl cats?’ If your answer is yes, then this is for Katy Perry and I support her!’

It is very important to have that freedom to choose for self. Today he stood for himself and I am sure he will stand for others too!

“There is no such thing as freedom of choice unless there is freedom to refuse” ~David Hume

~ Dawn

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“Children are great imitators. So give them something great to imitate.”

“A desire to help others and give to the world before saying adios to this place, it was that desire as a seed, seeded inside me and Good Gigs let that seed sprout out.

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What is born needs to be nourished well for it to grow and spread the good health across and hence Children were always special to my heart.

By helping and supporting the education for children will layout the foundation that will let these children to grow and flourish and spread the goodness across and this will multiply, so at Delta Utah my focus was children throughout and hence the planning to make sure the training we give to the teacher initiators and teachers are easy enough to adapt and in return the teacher’s roll this out to kids in an easier manner.

“Every child you encounter is a divine appointment” ~ Wess Stafford

In doing this, the preparation brought the best of the minds together to brainstorm and the outcome was incredible.

It was not easy to be frank. When we prepared our training deck, it was easy to believe that we captured every detail to show how the tool works. The challenge was how to deliver this simple deck to the teacher initiators who are actually well educated with full of awareness. Teaching a teacher is a challenge and believe me or not it needs lot of preparation, guts and confidence to hold their hands and walk along with them.

Good thing to be part of technology industry where it allows you to play with the tool and learn the hard way. To get to the level of each teacher initiator based on their understanding of the technology and then take that ride to a standard level was a worth learning experience for me personally, as it helped me to learn from the teachers and the details of the tools as well.

How to teach without intimidating and be part of the learner group to discover and explore the findings.

The teacher initiators and teachers loved each and every small thing that they learned about technology be it a copy/paste or right click and select. It taught me how simple things can bring happiness to you it doesn’t have to be expensive that costs money.

“Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated”~ Confucius 

Though VMware and Dell and other institutions took that expense to support this cause and the result was happiness, full of confidence, achievement and looking forward with technology in mind as a goal. It was an emotional ride for everyone be it the Millard School District High-School members, teacher initiators and teachers, people of Delta Utah or even the students of Millard School District schools – it is an emotional bonding that lead us to win everyone’s heart, it’s the people!

The personal touch with each training helped me to connect with each individual of Delta Utah that we associated with. Be it CoSN, SEDC, Millard District Office members, teacher initiators… the parting was painful yet the emails and connections through messages is keeping this bondage going with the hope to support each other going forward.

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The motivation, giving confidence to make that first mistake and letting them to correct themselves with support, perseverance, and letting others to grow is the key to be a leader.

“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you’re a leader.” ~ John Quincy Adams

While doing all this, there was not a single thought of what I am getting out of this because all my actions and thoughts were triggered towards to give the best to them to make a success for their day to day life. In doing so I learnt a lot from others about the approach, individual thought process, perceptions, emotions and vulnerability, those hugs and caring moments all adds up to climb the tallest mountain in the world. To let others to flourish with your support is the key I learnt in my leadership role.

There is no race, there is no game, because we all are in this game and have to make the team be comfortable. It doesn’t matter who made the goal in the goal-post as long as we have made efforts to make that goal to win the game. ☺

 

This Good Gig has given me an opening to the world which I was thinking to enter after my retirement but I guess I don’t have to wait that long if I have to do a good gig I can do it anytime. The journey continues for me… and I am happy if you want to hop along with me ☺

“Never get tired of doing little things for others sometimes those little things occupy the biggest part of their hearts”

~ Dawn

“You wanna fly, you got to give up the shit that weighs you down.”

Today was indeed a special day in my life. In the beginning when I was going for a birthday party event, my thoughts were that I will be meeting many new people from Bay Area.

When I reached at the event and heard the stories from these women who had gathered to wish the birthday girl, I was totally amazed and it took me to think.

Who says women is weak? Who? I rather witnessed today the power and courage that these women have and they are real. Women can move the mountains if they have the confidence and those who don’t have the confidence its not about their weakness… in fact its the values and mythological aspects that they have been forced upon when they are born.

Girls should be like this… an ideological figure they have made in Ramayana and every girl who is born has to be like Sita (bear all the pains, sacrifice your life for your husband and after all still if husband treats you bad or doubts on your sincerity then he is right) 🙂 Yes, when the foundation is laid out like this, how can any women build a castle of hers with free of thoughts and courage?

“There came a time when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” ~ Anais Nin


I believe every woman if decides she can be worse than the Shiva’s third eye (Shiva is often depicted with a third eye, with which he burned Desire to ashes – called “Tryambakam” in Sanskrit).

It’s just that don’t test her patience because she is patient, loving, caring which makes her first a human to care and respond accordingly. But some people take advantage of this and when the patience breaks even the people gets shattered to see that person in that same women.

I remember reading this poetry in grade 7th written by Indian poet: Maithili Sharan Gupt

“abla nari teri yehi kahani, aanchal mein hai dudh aur ankhon mein pani!!”

(Women is considered as the weaker sex even though, yet she is a mother and a sister too – here motherhood and sisterhood – more of love and sympathy that women carries in her eyes is what depicted).

I mean this was written somewhere in 1800s and when you look at it in this 25th century what has changed? I think a women’s patience and sacrifice is taken as her weakness and hence people try to hurt her more.

I think every individual MUST have a purpose in life irrespective of what is her role (daughter, sister, girlfriend, wife, mother, mother-in law, grandmother). When individuals have their purpose in life then they know how to fulfill that purpose in life. They will make sure whats so ever problems come in their way it will be taken as a challenge and they will make it through their way.

The mistake that we do is – we don’t speak about how we felt or feel about something that someone must have said or done to us. If you express about the hurt or disrespect behavior then the person should not repeat and if they do then we should stand up for ourselves and for our self-respect.

I am a true believer, that you come in this world alone and you leave this world alone too. Whom you meet and be around with as family and friends are part of your journey while you are here. So, for anything that goes wrong with me, I need to be responsible of it completely. I am the one who must know where it hurts and how to take care of it. No other individual can make decision for you because every individual is different in their own way.

Todays women is powerful and can bring that change in this world to make it a better place – a place where one can live with happiness and without any indifferences of religion, caste, color or creed.


I would like to end this post by sharing few lines from the poem Shakti aur Kshama (Strength and Mercy) written by an India poet: Ramdhari Singh Dinkar:

“Atyachar sahan karne ka, Kufal yahi hota hai
Paurush ka aatank manuj, Komal hokar khota hai”

(This is the consequence, Of tolerating atrocities, The awe of machismo is lost, When one’s gentle and kindly)

Change can only come when WE make that decision… it will never happen automatically – Wake Up! Stand Up! You also have the right to live freely 🙂

~ Dawn

Moments are to be Happy ;)

Re-positing as one of my long time reader and friend reminded me of this one today… I had lost some data on my blog and hence its back here again 🙂 Thanks for the reminder…!
I remember I got the Perfect Poet Award on this one by the Poetry blog team.


It was a rainy day 
As clouds were crazy 
Wild and ready to prey 
Sun the naughty one 
Playing his game on the way 
Chilly wind making two hearts 
Close by to be cozy on the day 
Hot sip of coffee and the chillness 
Had to merge like a ray 
The gestures and the silence 
Chirping noise of the birds 
Exchanging lot of words 
That one couldn’t hear yet 
Leave you on your way 
With lot of lingering thoughts 
As I drove my car 
Haunting words and the sky 
Taking deep into the dusk 
As if it’s going to rain 
When I ask myself – 
‘Why think and be stressed? 
Moments are to be happy 
Enjoy the journey 
As the sunsets 
For a new dawn to come 

 ~ Dawn

Thank You 2013… For bringing me from Myth to Reality !!!!

Dear Friends,

Today I am writing this post to thank the almighty (if he is there or to that super natural power).

The year 2013 started with many shocks and doubts for me. Yes, I always boast about my Healthy family and my healthy history and hence I know I will not be stuck by any other disease but the only rare ones such as AIDS (due to some blood transfusion or so) or Cancer.

Having a bloating stomach for couple of months made everyone at home wonder if I am having another baby. When this started getting noticed at home by everyone, the suggestion from my then visiting mom-in law was to show to a doctor and get it checked up.

I felt that’s a good idea since I was having issues with some of my dresses that I always wore and my trip to my Gynecologist was seemed the perfect time to discuss as I was not sure what or why bloating is happening.

Discussing with doctor brought so many ifs and buts of situation that she suggested me to have a ultra sound and I am still not sure the report depicted exactly about the uterus size and details on that but nothing called out as an issue.

I was told by my doctor that I am suffering from Endometriosis and Edenomyosis… quite interesting name or rather serious disease names, right?

I wondered, what the hell is going on within me? I had asked my family and relatives if they had any such problems and I always had a NO answer!

As days were going on and my visit, the doctor was brainwashing me to ultimately do a surgery – Yes, according to her I should get rid of my uterus since I don’t need any kids .. aha! sorry, but I believe in science yet I believe in our creation. Yes, whatever is not needed it can be removed naturally why do a surgery? If after having kids uterus was not needed by women then nature should have a way to get rid of it… this strong feeling and belief didn’t allow me to go blindly on doctor’s suggestion.

One thing I had made sure was if its cancerous or not…and the results were negative…! I decided, no matter what I will do what my heart and body says to me. After all, the doctors are also human being, Yes… they are not God!

I googled and tried to understand this issue and started reading lot of material on it. I changed my diet, I became Vegetarian and then Vegan and then Vegan but ate fish and all those trial and error method that  I did in Chemistry lab, it was time with myself to do.

Though my doctor suggested the treatment which was I felt was less harmful than surgery and hence used the Nu-Va ring.

One thing I want to call out here is when any one says you have such and such issue, psychologically you get impacted first… and then every other issues seems to be the reason for this one.

Yes, friends for my gut feeling I decided to change my doctor and get a second opinion…this time with a doctor who is actually specializing on Endometriosis… and guess what? The test that needs to be done to even detect whether this issue exists or not – HASN”T been done…and yet I was getting treated!

Yes, and let me tell you when I had asked the previous doctor about the issues of using Nu-Va ring, she said no issues, you might feel you are putting on weight but on scale you will not see any change.
It was actually wrong! I could see my weighing scale showing weird numbers which I also started suspecting… anyway to long story to be short… I do not have any issues.

My GI detected its certain food that causes bloating so watch what you eat and today I am so happy to tell you that 2013 gave me a jerk but that was like a roller coaster ride…at the end when I got down out of the ride… I felt good and peaceful.

One message to all my readers… Do not blindly believe in what your doctor says as they are also human being… listen to your body as it speaks to you all the time…Do Not Ignore… and when needed take the right decision as only you know what it is than anyone else…

I want to thank 2013 and say happily Goodbye, for bringing all the happiness like a Santa coming home and giving me all the peace, happiness and loads of love in return as Gift 🙂

~ The best feeling in the world is realizing that you’re perfectly happy without the thing you thought you needed 😉

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

I am riding with the moment… :)

The clouds are crazy
And the wind very breezy
I see the sun a bit fuzzy
As he can’t come out so easy
I love the hide and seek
The clouds and the sun playing!
As the season changing
As the years are passing
I feel a bit of tingling
The happiness is clinging
The friends and the loved ones
Holding me so near
The joy for togetherness
Have no end in the universe
Each birthday passing
Gives me a satisfaction
The journey of life
I am riding with the moment
Taking them along with me
Not worrying about tomorrow
Yet living in the present
Embracing my kids
Who make my life worth
With the man whom they call dad
It’s beautiful to live this life
Where I am still a passer-by 😉
Waiting for each station to pass by!!!

~ Dawn