Not every sorry deserves an “It’s Okay” in return!

It’s so true that one person has to be courageous and come out and then others automatically gain the confidence and courage to come and share their story.
Yes, I am talking about the #MeTooMovement that has taken like a huge storm and I hope its just the beginning.


As I was reading news and on social media about women being harassed at work place or even looked at as a piece of meat, it just gives you to reflect about so many things that has happened in your own life.
Women has the toughest job to do and that is if she doesn’t want to be dependent on anyone financially and she takes up a job in a company – then its basically means you’re on your own. Because if you complain then the response is ‘you better stay at home’.

I know there are many women who have been home makers for this reason. When a woman at work is harassed by her manager and she tries to stop him many times and yet he never stops. It reaches to a point where your colleagues ask you if you’re okay because you keep going into you manager’s room who keeps calling you in his room for 1 on 1s and you end up going each time because each time he says its about the project and this stress you share at home, it’s not necessary that she will get a support from her loved ones saying, lets talk about it or do something about it. They will still let her go to that same workplace, to that same manager and its that same environment where she is being sent.

“We have to have the courage to tell people when their behavior or the way they talk makes us uncomfortable.”

Financial support is something a woman tries to do for her family where her thinking is mainly to support her husband and family. When a husband doesn’t have a job or has a business which doesn’t bring in much income the support system is on the woman. At such time when she is being harassed by her manager at work, what options she has: tell at home and see what they suggest? If there is no suggestion then you know what it means, or you change your job, but whats the guarantee the next manager is going to be good? You’re taking a chance but until you find another job you’re stuck with the present manager because your family depends on you.

“At the end of the day, don’t forget that you’re a person, don’t forget that you’re a mother; a wife and a daughter.” ~ Indira Nooyi

Women will suffer for her family and why only women? Because women are raised that way from the beginning. They are taught you’re born strong so do all the hard work and yet any issue comes just be quiet and move on because women are supposed to not complain and if it’s about men then oh! no!!! never complain about them because women are such a piece of meat that they will be blamed but men won’t be blamed and the bad name will come to the women.
She shared with few friends and they said, ‘Complain it to Human Resources, but then no idea if the next manager wants to hire you because this will be in the system. They might keep the manager because he is an employee and then they might fire you as you are a contractor”.

“Show respect even to the people who don’t deserve it; not as a reflection of their character, but as a reflection of yours.” ~ Dave Willis

Here the harassment from the manager and no security or help from husband – both are men and what should this woman do? If anyone has an answer then do comment!

“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.” ~ Martin Luther King Jr.

~ Dawn


Happy wishes on this note!


Busy day,
Full of meetings,
Planning and discussions,
Lots of ideas and implementations,
We all think of that ideal world,
Where we have a process in place,
And People to face,
To deliver the product,
Which we interfaced,
Yet planning on backlogs,
With sprints after sprints,
And the day ends with a cake,
It’s someone’s birthday!
Happy wishes on this note!
~ Dawn

How corrupt you are to follow corruption?

‘Dandi March’ which our Father of Nation MK Gandhi initiated for ‘Salt Satyagraha’ – an important part of Indian independence movement that was taught to us in History took place around 1930. Recently I read an article where in some NRI’s are initiating this ‘Dandi March II’ on March 12th from MLK’s memorial park in San Diego through LA and it will end on March 26th at Gandhi Statue in San Francisco. I also hear that this date coincides with the dates when actually MK Gandhi did this in 1930. This is against the corruption in India.
When I read this article, I remembered my days when I was working with Marico Industries – a food manufacturing company where I alone participated against corruption only to bring hope within my team that if we decide ‘We Can’ then we will definitely be successful in eradicating corruption from our system, it’s up to us .
I had completed my education in Employee Relations and Labor Laws & Labor Welfare where along the way while fulfilling my duties towards the company I used to also help the workers know about their rights.

Every year we have to get the factory records signed by the Labor Welfare Officer who will check if we are maintaining the law and order for the factory requirements as per the State Act – this is a special and empowered rights to the state of Maharashtra workers.
After joining the company this was my first off-site job where I had to take all the files and registers to the government office to get their approval signature which allows us to be a true citizen in the field of Factory law and also proving justice towards our employees/workers. I was asked by my Factory manager to meet the Finance manager before leaving to meet the Labor Welfare Officer.
I had made sure we have all reasons under the law for things to have and not to have. I was very confident that my report and register will be signed and hence we don’t have to bribe anyone, as my Finance manager asked me to get cash from the accountant for my visit. I took an envelope that was handed over to me saying this is Rs. 5000.
I went to the government office in my Company car to meet the official and get the signature approval. I had to wait even though I was in there on time. The peon kept telling me, ‘our sir will go home and I kept telling him he can’t go without meeting me as I have taken an appointment.
He said by using his hand for money, ‘If you would want me to place your file ahead let me know’!
I hated that gesture and keeping my cool, I said, ‘I will give it straight to him so if he wants he will share it with you.’
My turn came and I went to the office and introduced myself to him and handed over the register for him to look through. The government official started looking through the register and he started asking about some Mr. Joshi who used to come with these files. I said he was an acting HR during that time though his role is to be a QA manager and now I am permanently placed at this position so you will have to deal with me and not Mr. Joshi.
He didn’t like that.
He looked through the documents and he said you guys do not have a CRESH for women and I see you have some 450 women employees as laborers. I said if you look through the list of names – we only have 22 permanent women employees for which we do not have to provide CRESH facility inside the factory and the rest of them are contract labors and medically certified that they are not able to produce any kids due to age and/or other medical operations that individuals have adopted with.
He had nothing to point out and hence he signed the documents and I thanked him.
Next day I reported first thing in the morning to my Finance department and made sure accountant adds back the Rs 5000 in the company account.
Our morning coffee conversation was – What happened that the money is submitted back into company accounts? All I gave them was a big smile!!!

This was a proud moment for me as I changed the history in the Marico Industry at Pune, where everyone advised me to give bribe as there is no other way to get away with it. We will be in serious trouble and I kept telling them it’s we who promote such things and hence this will never end from our system. To get this bacteria out of our system we have to take that initiative and that too without fear of any consequences.
I did it! You can too!!!
I support the cause of eradicating corruption from our system do you and how are you doing it?

"Do not confuse motion and progress. A rocking horse keeps moving but does not make any progress"

I am back from a busy week- trying to close issues, confusions and show stoppers and what not. However, I thought of sharing a story here.

It’s about a horse and a donkey. There were two horses – Dave and David, who were in the farm working for their master. As we all know how masters are – they will try to get the work done as much as possible. They will not analyze the capacity of the horse or even dividing the work for the horses.
Both the horses were working hard and were tired everyday. One day Dave felt that what are we doing, just work and work and get stressed and then you start another day and so forth. There must be something where we can find some peace and relaxing time.

Dave started thinking if I don’t think and work smartly there will be no difference – we horses being called as donkey. Dave shared his views with David.

David was more interested in doing things what the master gave and being the pet of the master. He felt that being a pet of the master will always keep him safe and sound.

“Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds you plant.” ~ Robert Louis Stevenson

David used to work like day and night. He used to lift all the load and pull the cart for his master and at times master will take David for a horse riding as well.
Dave, with a bit of his smart mind started doing things with a difference. He would lift the load not on his back but on the cart and he would take rest in between when ever he got chance and this made him look always with full of energy.

“For every disciplined effort there is a multiple reward.” ~ Jim Rohn

Slowly, master started feeling the change. He saw David takes him for the ride but he is dull and slow. He gets tired fast and then master has to shorten his ride and come back home.
One morning master went to ride back on David and David accidentally fall on the ground. Master looked at him and he called the vet to take care and he took Dave this time for a ride.
Dave was doing things smartly; he used to take his master for ride at places where there were green grass and lake water to drink. Dave knew his masters likes and dislikes and this place was perfect for his master as master used to get in for hunting deer and Dave used to freshen himself with some water and green grass.

“Planning is bringing the future into the present so that you can do something about it now” ~ Allan Lakein

Master started enjoying the ride with Dave and slowly Dave became his favorite pet and David was like a forgotten horse for his master. David recovered from his illness but he couldn’t ever get back to the level where he used to be with his master.

Summary is that if we don’t plan and work accordingly and if we fall for such things to be favorite of your boss you might miss many important things related to your work that might bring chaos to the overall work or project.

Thinking smartly and executing the work appropriately made Dave a perfect horse as compared to David who always thought like a donkey 😉

Now my friends will think this story was about a donkey and a horse and I started there were two horses :D….its up to you to think now …;)

“Every job is a self portrait of the person who does it. Autograph your work with excellence”

“Adopting the right attitude can convert a negative stress into a positive one”

Two people were arguing on the topic ‘stress’ which I guess is not new or strange to anyone: D
Yes, the discussion was work makes one stressful and the other was saying its not the work but the people!

“To be free of destructive stress don’t sweat the small stuff and by realizing that all stuff is small.”

Hmm…when I heard that, I started scratching my head and I said, its indeed the people as work you know your work or you will work around to get things done but it’s the people if they don’t make you feel at home, you will be always worried and tensed to first of all to come to work and then the rest of the day- how it takes you through with the help of people 😉

“People love others not for who they are but for how they make them feel” ~ Irwin Federman

Do you agree with it?
I am saying from my personal experience, as with my assignments I am very busy.
I was working at office and also at home. Trying to finish the task as much as possible and get on to the next! But I enjoyed every moment of it.
Work never made me feel stressed or sad! The more work has kept me busy the more I have loved my job…:)

“Your work is to discover your world and then with all your heart give yourself to it.” ~ Buddha

I guess it’s the same for everyone but we are too quick to jump on deciding that it’s the work that is making one stressful 🙂

C’mon friends, you all are mostly working, even if studying you will be there one day so tell me what you think – what makes more stressful- People or Work 😉

The winner will be hahahah am kidding; it will be a nice polling session to see isn’t it?

“In times of stress and strain, people will vote”

I will say enjoy work and just leave the rest on people …lol!

“If A equals success, then the formula is A equals X plus Y and Z, with X being work, Y play, and Z keeping your mouth shut.” ~ Albert Einstein

“Few men have virtue to withstand the highest bidder”

Its been a while since I have blogged after my long weekend trip and it was not that I am short of topics 😀 in fact I have so many topics from day to day life that am unable to decide on which to opt first J
Today’s topic is about bribe 🙂 !
Yes I think even though we don’t agree and don’t support bribing, knowingly or unknowingly everyone tries to bribe by some or the other way!
I didn’t realize this until I heard someone at work was suggesting to buy gifts for other’s nephew or niece so that your work gets done!!!!

“The difference between try and triumph is a little umph.” ~Author Unknown

My first reaction to this was WHY? Aren’t we all working for one company and aren’t we getting paid for that?; Then why this extra from your pocket?
I am a strong believer and I believe that one should not be bribed but one should remind them of their duties and responsibilities – but then who has time for all this!

“Though the bribe be small, yet the fault is great” ~ Edward Coke

We all are in the era of speed, where we lack patience and yet want things to happen in the way we expect and to make it happen we look for an easy way out and bribe seems a pretty cool thing!

You do my work and I will give you something if not at least coffee and donut :D!
After looking at the ethics of people’s working style I have now come to a point where I don’t pity the people who take this effort of bribing but I pity those who settle with donut and coffee to get their work done!!! Lol
Can you imagine what they are putting themselves into when they accept these kinds of bribe and try to show off their importance by working on things as if without them the work wouldn’t have happened?

“Neither fire nor wind, birth nor death can erase our good deeds” ~ Buddha

I used to think that most of the companies have the policies where they clearly mention not to take bribe and not to give either so how come within the company these things take place!?!

It is sad to see the way we are turning into a fast paced yet with such work ethics imagine what else must they be doing out side of work to get the things done in their favor?

I am glad so far I am able to get things done with my professional approach and the day I feel I have to bribe a person probably I will stop working! J One should feel good in what they are doing – I guess! But am sure there are other places where bribe is called as charm 😉

“A bribe is a charm to the one who gives it; wherever he turns, he succeeds” ~ Bible

What do my friends have to say is bribing good or bad? If things work for you then you would say its good?

“Never let your sense of morals get in the way of doing what’s right”. ~ Isaac Asimov