Freedom of choice is more to be treasured than any possession earth can give…!

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These days we see so many incidents, messages, tweets, videos in social media talking about ‘stand up’!
Yes, I don’t want to mix this with the usual tech industry norms of ‘stand-up’ meeting.

Standing up for self and for others is basically asking defend and be strong. This is what I teach my kids because I always have this fact behind my mind that one day I will be gone and kids will have to face this world all by themselves.
We all know how this world is and it’s not easy to live in. My thinking used to be that as we move forward in life we will be more intelligent and will be more human but that’s not the reality.

“Charity begins at home, and justice begins next door” ~ Charles Dickens

My son is a big fan of Katy Perry the American songwriter and singer, since he was 5 years old. He loves her songs and he sings them as well. Since then he has been after me to go for Katy Perry’s concert and not only this but he would also check if she is performing anywhere. Years passed but he would come and tell she is performing in London or Costa Rica, can we go and I had to tell him it’s far and expensive to go for a concert in those places.
Finally, it happened and Katy Perry’s tour was announced on the 101.3 radio and I got excited about it only because I could imagine my son’s excitement if he would know about it.

I went ahead and booked the ticket even though it was way too early. His excitement and happiness had no limits and at the same time he thanked a million times for this opportunity to watch Katy Perry’s live concert.

He also requested if possible can we buy her t-shirt at the concert and I said sure!

“Music gives a soul to the universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination and life to everything” ~ Plato

The concert was good, we all enjoyed it as by now we knew all the songs that Katy Perry has sung and more over those who have attended her concert know that she is a great performer and entertainer as well. We bought t-shirt and my son was so happy and excited that he was ready to wear the t-shirt to his school and let the world know that he finally did attend Katy Perry’s concert.

I was really happy for him being a music lover I know the excitement of attending the concerts as I do all the time.

He went to school wearing Katy Perry’s t-shirt and couple of kids teased him why he is wearing a t-shirt that has a girl on it. We got to know all this only when he returned that afternoon from school. What I saw was a strong person in my son. He clearly told them he is a big fan of Katy Perry and he likes her and hence he is wearing the t-shirt. He also said, I support her, don’t you support your mom and/or sister?
I was amazed at his stand! However, I didn’t like when I heard his friend was nagging about this as why he wore that t-shirt. I felt this should be reported to the office, because no one should tell anyone what they should do. It’s everyone’s individual choice.
I was reading few quotes to my son on the internet and I showed some of Martin Luther King Jr. quotes which spoke about standing up for self and for others. I told my son, today what you did is for self and I am proud of you.

“Our children have to be educated in the values of equality, freedom of choice and democracy” ~Ehud Barak

Couple weeks went by and as I was folding the clothes from the laundry wash, he sees the t-shirt is washed and the response comes, yay! I see my t-shirt seems got washed, nice and clean so I can wear this tomorrow to school!
I was surprised and happy too!
I was surprised because last time when he wore that t-shirt he had an incident at school and now he is again going to wear it and I was nervous again things will be different. So, I asked my son, ‘are you sure? You want to wear this even though you know what happened last time?’

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My son’s response was cute, ‘I don’t care what anyone says. I like Katy Perry and I will wear the t-shirt again.’

“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter” ~ Martin Luther King Jr.

This made me feel very proud about my son. It could be a small thing but this is important step in life, to stand up for self. One should have the freedom to choose what they want and not others to choose for them.

His best friend asked again, why you are wearing that girl’s t-shirt and my son had an answer for him.
‘Would you support your mom, sister and your girl cats?’ If your answer is yes, then this is for Katy Perry and I support her!’

It is very important to have that freedom to choose for self. Today he stood for himself and I am sure he will stand for others too!

“There is no such thing as freedom of choice unless there is freedom to refuse” ~David Hume

~ Dawn

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“Children are great imitators. So give them something great to imitate.”

“A desire to help others and give to the world before saying adios to this place, it was that desire as a seed, seeded inside me and Good Gigs let that seed sprout out.

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What is born needs to be nourished well for it to grow and spread the good health across and hence Children were always special to my heart.

By helping and supporting the education for children will layout the foundation that will let these children to grow and flourish and spread the goodness across and this will multiply, so at Delta Utah my focus was children throughout and hence the planning to make sure the training we give to the teacher initiators and teachers are easy enough to adapt and in return the teacher’s roll this out to kids in an easier manner.

“Every child you encounter is a divine appointment” ~ Wess Stafford

In doing this, the preparation brought the best of the minds together to brainstorm and the outcome was incredible.

It was not easy to be frank. When we prepared our training deck, it was easy to believe that we captured every detail to show how the tool works. The challenge was how to deliver this simple deck to the teacher initiators who are actually well educated with full of awareness. Teaching a teacher is a challenge and believe me or not it needs lot of preparation, guts and confidence to hold their hands and walk along with them.

Good thing to be part of technology industry where it allows you to play with the tool and learn the hard way. To get to the level of each teacher initiator based on their understanding of the technology and then take that ride to a standard level was a worth learning experience for me personally, as it helped me to learn from the teachers and the details of the tools as well.

How to teach without intimidating and be part of the learner group to discover and explore the findings.

The teacher initiators and teachers loved each and every small thing that they learned about technology be it a copy/paste or right click and select. It taught me how simple things can bring happiness to you it doesn’t have to be expensive that costs money.

“Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated”~ Confucius 

Though VMware and Dell and other institutions took that expense to support this cause and the result was happiness, full of confidence, achievement and looking forward with technology in mind as a goal. It was an emotional ride for everyone be it the Millard School District High-School members, teacher initiators and teachers, people of Delta Utah or even the students of Millard School District schools – it is an emotional bonding that lead us to win everyone’s heart, it’s the people!

The personal touch with each training helped me to connect with each individual of Delta Utah that we associated with. Be it CoSN, SEDC, Millard District Office members, teacher initiators… the parting was painful yet the emails and connections through messages is keeping this bondage going with the hope to support each other going forward.

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The motivation, giving confidence to make that first mistake and letting them to correct themselves with support, perseverance, and letting others to grow is the key to be a leader.

“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you’re a leader.” ~ John Quincy Adams

While doing all this, there was not a single thought of what I am getting out of this because all my actions and thoughts were triggered towards to give the best to them to make a success for their day to day life. In doing so I learnt a lot from others about the approach, individual thought process, perceptions, emotions and vulnerability, those hugs and caring moments all adds up to climb the tallest mountain in the world. To let others to flourish with your support is the key I learnt in my leadership role.

There is no race, there is no game, because we all are in this game and have to make the team be comfortable. It doesn’t matter who made the goal in the goal-post as long as we have made efforts to make that goal to win the game. ☺

 

This Good Gig has given me an opening to the world which I was thinking to enter after my retirement but I guess I don’t have to wait that long if I have to do a good gig I can do it anytime. The journey continues for me… and I am happy if you want to hop along with me ☺

“Never get tired of doing little things for others sometimes those little things occupy the biggest part of their hearts”

~ Dawn

Keep your face always toward the sunshine – and shadows will fall behind you… :)

Today my blog has a special person about whom my heart said to write about.
People know this person based on her work and passion. She might be a celebrity.


However, I met a human today and I am only going to write about that element which touched me the most.
I have seen many people in life and it always made me wonder that there is something more in them. I happen to meet this lady whom I felt very humble and polite – mainly a motherly touch.

Being in media and the kind of things you deal with it will always have a rough and smooth sides of it and people might have come across in many ways and can make a judgment accordingly. In my life I have seen and met many celebrities and there is a story behind their success and/or failure. All this is good as it teaches everyone and it’s learning to all.
Papiha Nandy, is a person that I met today where I didn’t feel she is from a TV program or a Radio program host. I found a lady made of blood and flesh just like you and me and have the heart of goodwill and blessing words. The lady has gone through a lot physically in her life at a very young age, which is 16. A rare disease which I don’t think so I have ever heard of it but its called “Takayasu Aorto Arteritis” which means a disease that affects the main blood vessel leaving the heart and it branches to the pulmonary arteries. When I heard this, it took me back to my science class where we have studied about heart as organ and its function and I was totally shocked to believe something like this had happened to Papiha ji. One can Google it and read the details about it but here it is not about to sympathize but rather I was amazed that a woman who always have to go through lot of struggle in life to reach to a successful strata; Here it is a physical fight which is always 50-50. 
Papiha ji went through couple of bypass surgery at Stanford and got that cleared. She takes medication and makes sure she is up and running with her mission and goal in life and that is to reach to her listeners and viewers and make that effort to touch their hearts and make that difference in bringing the positive element in everyone’s life.
I am sure we all want to do good to others but when it comes to physical illness or so one often gets discouraged and many times the person is more engrossed in their thoughts and try to be aloof. But what I admired about Papiha ji was that even though she went through so much pain and tolerance with the disease, she gained all the strength and added into her activity and made sure she is part of people’s life. I have heard people calling her for help due to domestic violence or other and she patiently advises them, motivates them and helps them to look at the bright side of life.
When yourself, you are going through issues, you want to seclude yourself but here the case wasn’t that…and I admire that courage in the woman. We all must learn in our life’s there will be many kinds of disease which might be physical and which might be from outside events yet, never leave that spirit to fight back.
Through this blog post I want to send the message to my readers that life is indeed beautiful and be thankful for what you have and try to be happy in whatever situation you are because many don’t even get that in life… a moment to think and ponder!!!

“There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle, or the mirror that reflects it” ~ Edith Wharton
~ Dawn

Being good is commendable, but only when it is combined with doing good is it useful ;)

It was last summer when I met this person Masood, whom I was introduced at one of the community event.

When I met Masood, I never knew what he must have gone through in the past. True everyone has a past but this person had a daring one and I mean it.

Masood had seen death close to him like an opening door and guess what last minute he got a donor and he got pulled back from getting into that door to this side of the door!
I see Masood –  full of life and many times I have thought myself, what this person would have been before all this happening? Indeed, a person who lived his life to it’s fullest. 
I believe in that even though I don’t know him prior to that incident but I believe he has to be a person who lived every moment of his life or else it wouldn’t be so easy for someone to live life so fully and happily after!!

I feel Masood is a good example for today’s generation and the older generation or present generation either way, a good example about living life fully and happily.

Life is a game either you win or you lose but till you are there one must play the game 🙂 that’s my strategy to life and I very quickly got connected with Masood and his family.

Everyone has issues and some can be very serious and some can be not so serious yet, we mustn’t forget to enjoy. Because when we sulk and be sad, we are actually losing the time which is for us to live happily. There are always ways we find out and when I say find out …believe me what Masood was going through was something really serious.

Such a happy go lucky guy didn’t stop there. After getting back a new life Masood  realized how precious is life and besides enjoying his own moments of life, he thought to extend that to others also. 

He went back home in India and started training every member of his town for CPR (CardioPulmonary Resuscitation). It is an emergency procedure, performed in an effort to manually preserve intact brain function until further measures are taken to restore spontaneous blood circulation and breathing in a person in cardiac arrest.

When he went to his home town, he probably thought to enjoy the time there with good food, friends and all the fun things that he did in his childhood.
It was not only a fun trip for Masood this time. Along with his hiking, fishing and traveling enjoyment, he made sure his town is educated in the manner to save someone’s life whether its their dear ones or near ones.
There can be ample of reasons for people not to go for this training. There were rains all the time for an excuse but I am sure Masood has his own charm to make this work and it did it for people to come out of their houses irrespective of weather conditions or any other domestic concerns – men women, everyone came out to learn and save each other. It is a big step and a big movement if you look at it. This brings the entire town in one spirit as uniting together for a good cause with a great mission.
“Many small people, in many small places, do many small things, that can alter the face of the world” 🙂
I salute the people of that hometown where Masood comes from or belongs to… without their support probably this would have been a dream for Masood.

Today, Masood is a happy guy in true spirit. We don’t know what is our tomorrow but at least he secured and made sure people know what to do when someone gets cardiac arrest – an effort to rescue from death. 

I truly salute this soul for being that fun loving person there yet making sure all the serious matter is also taken care.

He is giving back to society and his community by being a live example and I am sure only he can prove that as what one feels to be back from the death bed – specially when you have lost all hopes – a small phone call 🙂

You never know when a phone call can save you and when it will release you.

A message I want to convey to all by viewing through Masood’s life- Live Life to the Fullest as no one is going to live here forever but while we are here let’s make it a better place to live happily with a smile.

“There is no exercise better for the heart than reaching down and lifting people up.” ~ John Holmes

~ Dawn

Love is like dew that falls on both nettles and lillies…

One of our colleague is getting married and so the team decided to honor his moment in a special way by cutting cake and sharing some gifts as token of love and good wishes.
It was called ‘Man Shower’ ~ what a weird name – I thought in fact some other members too thought of the same…but anyway the purpose was to have little fun and more of to give him the good wishes.

It was a surprise event….our manager really did a good job in keeping that serious face and calling it out a quick meeting on some of the work that our colleague was doing. We all were already in the room and hence screamed out to him as he entered ~ ‘Surprise!!! and the smile was worth watching on his face.

Everyone troubled him by asking different kinds of question and saying you still have time to pull out of it…and what not. Few gave him advices as what to do and what not to do…and there was one of the colleague who is married for 22 years and I thought that is so awesome but then I went in deep thought when he said as you grow you learn no one is perfect and then you will see you are also not the same who you were before marriage which made me kind of think ~ no! that’s not what I want to be!?!

“Love is a symbol of eternity. It wipes out all sense of time, destroying all memory of a beginning and all fear of an end.”

I want to be what I am! What I was as a kid and the change shouldn’t be part of accommodating or sacrificing…that would be painful isn’t it?

If experience brings the wisdom in us then marriage anniversaries should bring more freedom and more comfort in relationships – isn’t it?

Well, I think any relationship no matter how long or how short it is been, fights or not so big fights it all evaporates if love exists there.

Love is the only element that lets you forget and forgive and brings you back to your friend no matter how big issue you have between each other.

So friends, don’t give up on love. It’s worth sharing if you have love. It’s worth caring for someone if you feel so for someone, It’s worth loving if you love someone – don’t worry what will happen and if the other person loves you or not…love is such a fragrance that it will always spread the beautiful odor all around and will keep you happy and motivated.

 Love is beyond any institution, religion and discrimination – it’s that pure…

“Love has no desire but to fulfill itself. To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night. To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving”. ~ Khalil Gibran

Personality is born out of pain. It is the fire shut up in the flint…

As a first year science student in Ferguson, we used to rush from one class to the other and to cover it all practicals and completing journals would used to take away the remaining peace of mind.
Central School product and secondly coming from National Defense Academy, it kept us in discipline even in college days where actually one is supposed to enjoy the freedom of getting out of school life.
I remember I was told not to sit in the class if all the students are doing mass-bunk. This sounded very weird to me but then I thought to take it with a pinch of salt at that time.
I still remember after a heavy duty practical session – standing in the lab all evening had squeezed out all the energy and after 5 rushing to catch the Pune Municipal Transportation bus number 83/84/85 – to reach home was killing.

Our bus timings were one hours frequency and that day we girls were so tired and fed-up of this routine run around to catch the 5:00 p.m. bus that we as a mass decided to go to Vaishali restaurant and get rid of our hunger and tiredness.
We entered the Vaishali restaurant and sat on the right hand side of the table where two each of us were sitting with a hungry face yet a worried expression on our faces. Lingoo the server came and looked at us and gave a smile.

 Lingoo, who has a salt and pepper hair, his teeth colored with beetle leaves yet that smile has so much warmth that anyone in that restaurant comes in feels so welcoming and more over one will forget all their worries and would look forward to hear what they have to offer.
Lingoo came to me and said what are you worrying about…do you want to know what’s good here? because I think you girls are new here…first year student?

and I smiled nodding my head as yes, and with a wondering expression as how he know all this.
We four girls ordered and then Lingoo brought us tea – saying this will relieve all your worries…indeed Vaishali tea…I still have that taste in my mouth – and still remember the wide white cup – it really had that magic which took all our worries away. We were concentrating on our food in between when I looked around there was another server called Vasu…who used to give a cunning smile and look and walk away when Lingoo came and said …that guy is a crazy guy – don’t indulge with him.
“Hospitality is making your guests feel at home, even if you wish they were”

As soon we see Lingoo disappeared in the kitchen Vasu comes and says that guy Lingoo he is a bit crazy so you girls better be careful and don’t smile too much with him…
All this was so funny and entertaining that how we spent our three years there and later on also the experience never changed and it was all because of people like Lingoo and Vasu who kept entertaining the guests – They treated us like their own kids…they used to come and help everyone whether you’re after some girl or boy – Lingoo and Vasu will give you proper and right advice and information.

My last meet with Lingoo was in 2005…when I went with Milind for a coffee…one after the other coffees came  in and as we left the place Lingoo came in and blessed saying be happy where ever you are …those words are still lingering in my ears …that smiling face where his eyes used to almost close – Vaishali won’t be the same again…We will miss you Lingoo….
May your soul rest in peace and give your family the strength to bear this loss. The person who was so senior to all of us Lingappa was always known to students as Lingoo…he had no other name and I think love has only one name…You will be missed yet your stories will remain alive as generation after generation people will recite…

“Attractiveness and magnetism of man’s personality is the result of his inner radiance”

I shall not die of a cold. I shall die of having lived…

Life sometimes really teaches you so many things in so many different ways.
I have realized this as I was growing up.

I remember it was spring time when I used to see this dark skinny guy wearing white shirt and white lungi (a traditional outfit for men in Southern part of India) with a black framed specs. The first thing I noticed was his smile where in I could see few twisted or broken teeth.
He used to come to our neighbor’s house where he used to make the ladies stitch the clothes. In a way he was making living for himself but at the same time he was giving a way of living to the ladies who were our neighbor’s sisters.

My dad used to come from office whether during lunch time or even after office hours this guy used to come and chit chat with him. They used to exchange cigarettes, at times my dad would prepare tea and invite him and things started moving on in this way.
I was a little girl watching him all the time as to me he was still a stranger…though people used to address him as Tailor Master. He used to give sweets to me and during summer vacation time he used to play with us carom board just like kids…he was an expert and I always had this in mind that I want to defeat him at least in one game.

He used to coach me at times, he used to get mad at me at times when I am making mistakes while hitting the coins. He used to challenge me and many times I have accepted it and won as well and as a reward he used to give me money.
Important thing to note was not how much but whatever he could figure out the amount that is rolled into his shirt’s sleeves he will remove it and give it to me.

Taking money from anyone is not considered a good habit and I was very scared to do so. The first time he gave me the reward that was in front of my parents and when parents said that’s okay…he said, ‘No, but I gave her the word so in my case you should let your daughter to take it and since then taking money from Tailor Master as a reward or bet became common. I felt proud one time when I defeated him in the game in fact Tailor Master was surprised and he was amazed too.

“As we struggle to make sense of things, life looks on in repose”





Tailor Master was a guy who had no relatives, no family members. He was a single guy – working as a Tailor in Goal Market in National Defense Academy (NDA) – Goyal Clothing Store. He used to decide whether he will go to work or not. At times his absence from work will lead to no money and at that time my granny who was visiting us that summer used to invite him for lunch and dinner.

That’s the time I actually came to know he was alone and has no one to be called as his own. I used to ask lot of questions to my granny on this…as how can one be without anyone – isn’t it sad?
I used to be nice with Tailor Master, my granny went back and I took her place when it came to lunch, dinner or tea for Tailor Master. He used to tell my parents that I am very kind heart and it could be a problem for me as people can take advantage of my this nature.

There were times when I used to get angry with Tailor Master as he used to tease me and play pranks on me – even though his age was more than my dad – his childish attitude gave me freedom to play pranks on him, or tease him etc.
My mom always used to tell me call him uncle and not Tailor Master but I never could change as everyone else used to call him that way.

I remember my school uniforms were all stitched by him. I tell you he was an expert in that and hence no wonder his leave of absence never lead him to be jobless. In school when other girls used to see my uniform they used to ask their tailors to stitch that way and when they couldn’t get it exactly then they came to me asking for my tailor. His work was amazing – he used to always remind me of a traveler whether sunny, rain or winter he used to be in the same outfit.
I remember one time he came to my mom and said I don’t know by the time your daughter gets married will I be still alive so let me contribute some money as and when I can so that later you can buy a gift for her from my side.

I still feel that was such a touching thought…I used to collect the coins and bills in the powder tin and bought a golden locket for my necklace.
He used to speak his heart for which some liked him and some didn’t. I always liked him for what he said, what he shared and always enjoyed the part where I used to fight with him – but it was very sad to hear yesterday when my dad said he is no more…!
He was supposed to meet my dad this month. It’s true one can’t say anything about humans.
I pay my tribute by remembering him since my childhood till date. May his soul rest in peace. I am sure he is watching me and giving his blessings too. Even though he came to this world all alone ..he lived all alone as per his will and he made friends and family along the way as he crossed through places in life and I am pretty sure he has touched many lives who will be thankful to him and will be praying for him.

”A man does not die of love or his liver or even of old age; he dies of being a man”