We all say a change is always good, it brings lot of good things and we must embrace it positively. But what if the change is for not good?
Say instance, you make friends with someone for there good nature and after a while you realize your friend isn’t the same…now that is a change in behavior so what would you call that…?
“There is nothing wrong with change, if it is in the right direction” ~ Winston Churchill
Kamala was very happy with her love marriage as her hubby was the kind whom she always dreamt of. The loving and calm personality that he had which made her think very high of him. She always used to feel he is so different from others and she is so lucky to have him as her partner. Kamala’s husband was a software engineer. He was very hard working and yes a loving husband too! But as the competition was increasing he was having issues at work and he was trying his best to solve those issues so that he can nominated for his promotion.
“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking” ~ Marcus Aurelius
Life isn’t easy with everything we all know this fact. There are lay-offs, office politics and what not, but one doesn’t just go and kill anyone or one doesn’t leave to live :D…I liked this when I thought in mind…how can your job frustrations let you not live … infact I have often seen people gain strength from there close ones and next day when they get back to work they give that punch with full force to achieve the success and desired goals.
“Life can either be accepted or changed. If it is not accepted, it must be changed. If it cannot be changed, then it must be accepted.”
Kamala was noticing hubby’s change of attitude and everytime she asked him he discussed about his office problems and Kamala like a good friend always listened to him and would give him strength and support in a manner to relieve him with his stress off.
Things got worse in the office and it started showing in his behavior too. He was no more the calm and sweet guy. He used to be frustrated with an angry face, always yelling…even if its just a music that is put loud, he will yell and ask what is it? Things started getting out of control …the pleasing couple where only love existed every moment in there company…things started getting dry. There were no more talks, he used to put on the TV or watch movie and this was always a big valley between Kamala and her hubby. There were no more talks, only necessary talks were exchanged such as what’s to eat…where things are kept …am going to work etc.
“A sad thing in life is that sometimes you meet someone who means a lot to you only to find out in the end that it was never bound to be and you just have to let go.”
Kamala married him because he was different but now she started thinking there is nothing as different!!! The two, once known as love birds… were now strangers.
Since there was no talk…the distance grew and Kamala had to take a decision as she couldn’t live like this. One day when Hubby came home, Kamala wasn’t there sitting waiting for him. He thought she must be in the washroom! He waited for some sort of noise to happen as if Kamala is busy doing something! As usual hubby came and started watching his movie with few peanuts in his hand.
“Dream as if you’ll live forever, live as if you’ll die today.” ~ James Dean
It was 10 at night and that’s when hubby felt to look for Kamala. It was too late. When he went to the bedroom, he saw the note –
“When life demands more of people than they demand of life – as is ordinarily the case – what results is a resentment of life almost as deep-seated as the fear of death”
15 thoughts on ““He lives the poetry that he cannot write. The others write the poetry that they dare not realise.””
Good post Dawn, change is always there in life, but our approach to life and love should never change>A lesson for all hubbies out there I guess.
so did she die? OMG!>>Keshi.
Dawn, what a powerful post! And it’s true – not just for hubbies – but for wifies and everyone else!>>I think one of the keys is to keep talking. After 17+ years together, my lovely and I still find time to just talk. If you can’t speak whatever is on your mind to the person you live with, what is the point?
Dawn: A good one indeed. Time and work can kill any relationship even if one of them is 100% supportive. But how long is the question? A person changes for his own ambition, but the support he/she extends changes and gives more pain to the ones who are not used to it. In such relationship, its better to walk off than whining.
I have this habit of saying, change is always good. But yeah nothing is absolute and so even change is not always good.
tagore said that death is extinguishing of the candle cos dawn has arrived.>>i sometimes feel its not death that is as comforting as the process of dying.
Very good, thank you.>Have a good weekend.
a powerful post..change isnt necesary always…..
I know how this is – because once we get caught up in work and day to day mundane chores, romance disppears. Both hubby and wife have to take the effort to keep up the romance.
Hi Dawn!>A change is always good! You show that not always. This kind of situation often happen in our life. I sent your post to my sweet husband(he is workaholic).>Thanks. >Best to you!
The question is whether you control life or life controls you..when you feel life controls you then it is time for change to get control over life.
Life and work forms a Mobius strip, I’ve always felt. We think there are two different planes. But ultimately when we start walking around, there is only one.>>And to add, I’ve heard people saying, “whatever happens, happens for good!”; though I’ve failed more than once to understand the essence of it and kept pondering “why me!!”>>Sorry for your friend. Hope she feels that she had taken the right decision.
Awesome Narration. Looks like there’s more in Part 2.>>“Life can either be accepted or changed. If it is not accepted, it must be changed. If it cannot be changed, then it must be accepted.”>>I think it’s a quote from Dawn – I feel as if it’s written for me.>>“You can either marry your work or your wife, not both” 🙂
<>marthyan<>: Well, it can be for both hubbies n wives too >Thanks>Cheers>><>keshi<>: I guess by now you know what happened…? 😀>And my stories wont have any gal giving up 😉 >Cheers dear>><>art<>: Wow…good to hear from you these words…I guess it will help understand my post 😀>Thanks so much dear>Cheers>><>priya<>: Well…you said it 😀>Cheers dear>><>neihal<>: Yes like every coin has two sides so is with changes 😀>Cheers>><>raghu<>: Welcome!!>Cool what Tagore has said thanks for sharing>And do come again pls>Cheers>><>david santos<>: Thank you dear and I wish the same to you too>Cheers>><>shammu<>: Thanks dear>Cheers>><>nissidhi<>: Yes, one need to give time and its far from romance as romance comes afterwards :D…! Thanks for your comments and thoughts dear>Cheers>><>krystyna<>: Wow….there is someone who will benefit from this post 😀>Thanks so much dear…you have a great day>Cheers>><>masd<>: Yes if you could then that’s the best isn’t it 😀>Cheers>><>jagadeesh<>: I guess with the continuation of this story in next will give you more details 😀>Cheers>><>mystic rose<>: yes sometimes that’s what we can think of 😀>Cheers>><>shiva<>: Thanks dear…but I don’t think you neglect that part as you feel the guilt that tells a lot of things 😀 besides after reading the poetry on Red …one doesn’t hv to think like that 😀>Cheers dear